Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried for years
to conceive – they tried everything until they resigned themselves to thinking
they would only ever be an aunt and uncle until they received a text that
changed their lives overnight.
The couple had been trying to conceive
since they married in Jan. 2018 but when it didn’t happen naturally they tried
everything else.
“Ovulation
tests, prenatal vitamins, cycle tracking apps, fertility monitors,” the Houston
mom told Love What Matters.
“We
even tried the unsolicited advice of friends, family, and strangers and didn’t
try. For 14 months, we tried, prayed, and waited. Month after month. Negative
pregnancy test after negative test. It seemed like we were going to need
assistance to conceive. We even went as far as to talk to doctors about it.”
Doctors
didn’t seem to offer the couple much help. They all told Sadie to lose weight
and she would conceive so with no other advice to go on she had gastric surgery
and lost 28 pounds.
Sadie’s
OBGYN shared her excitement at the weight loss and told Sadie how proud she was
of her.
“She
told me that if I wasn’t pregnant within six months then she would refer me to
a fertility specialist because she couldn’t prescribe me the fertility
medication,” Sadie said. “I was over the moon about that. Finally, we got
something other than a no! We got a ‘not right now,’ and we were thrilled.”
But
sadly the couple didn’t get pregnant as they thought they would after Sadie
lost the weight and they felt like they were back where they started.
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“I
had always felt like I was born to be a mother,” Sadie shared. “My surgeon
had taken so much time to warn me about how fertile I would be after surgery,
but I still wasn’t pregnant. So, we gave up. We realized that we were only
destined to be an aunt and uncle to our nieces, and godparents to our
goddaughters.”
Just
when the couple had decided to give up their heartbreaking attempts to
conceive, Sadie received a text from her friend asking if they would consider
fostering a baby that a couple she knew was considering for their baby.
The
couple were hesitant at first as at that point they were told by a caseworker
to take care of the baby while the mom sought treatment. The couple were
worried they’d get too attached to the baby. But shortly after that story
changed.
“The
birth mom decided she would like you guys to adopt the child instead,” the
caseworker said.
“‘Holy
crap!!,’ I said aloud,” Sadie recalled the moment she found out she was going
to be a mom.
“We
went from not having any children, to the possibility of fostering one, to,
‘You guys are parents!,’ overnight. I listened to the case worker as she
talked, still in disbelief. I hung up and called my husband! ‘Babe!! They
want us to adopt the baby! They want us to be parents,’ I screamed. ‘Wait!
REALLY?! I thought they just wanted us to foster him!,’ he said. ‘Nope! They
want us to be his mom and dad,’ I said.”
The
couple had a weekend of absorbing the shocking news but also preparing
themselves just in case the mom changed her mind.
Monday
came and the couple were not only told the mother still wanted them to adopt
the baby but that she wanted to do an independent adoption and was ready to
sign that day.
Their
baby boy had been born at 33 weeks, seven weeks early. He was 4 lbs., 5 oz. “He
fit in one of my husband’s hands,” Sadie wrote.
“He
was so tiny, swaddled in a white blanket, with pink and blue stripes,” Sadie
added. “He had an NG tube coming out of his nose because he couldn’t eat on his
own since he was premature. But my oh my, was he cute!!!”
The
couple shared their news on social media and was encouraged to make a registry.
They listed 72 items and after just three days 55 had been bought for them.
Ezra
Lee’s adoption was finalized in October 2020 and the couple had the most
adorable photos taken of them as a family wearing t-shirts that said “families
don’t have to match.”
In
2021, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin girls Journee and Destinee
through embryo donation. Staying true to their family motto, “Families
don’t have to match,” the black couple became parents to three white
children – a boy and two girls.
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For
anyone who judges this beautiful family, they have just one response: their
family is built on the most robust foundation ever – love.
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