May be
you’ve heard the famous saying, “no one escapes childhood unscathed.'' The
statement is true without any doubt and it’s full of a significant universal
importance. If you're one who has experienced emotional abuse in your childhood
that will make you extremely painful even in your elderly days. This kind of
emotional trauma leads you to question yourself, your self-esteem and your
strength in relationships. Perhaps this can lead a person into a long term
mental illness.
If someone
ignores the effects of childhood emotional abuse, it can last for a long time,
may be for decades. The first step to get rid of these and be cured is to
understand that you’re not alone in your life. This will help in healing your
emotions in a large way.
1. You can’t
be patient during loud noises.
You’d be unable
to stand loud noises such as slamming the doors, shouting, yelling and sudden
aggression. All these kinds of noises would make your mind run wild with anger.
You’d feel as if your whole body shrinks. Breathing would become a hard thing
for you as you get the feeling of anxiety within you.
2. You
hardly accept praise.
Perhaps
your parents were never content with what you did in your small days. May be
you never washed the dishes properly, never cleaned the rooms to their
standards, never scored in exams as they expected and may be everything was met
with a half-smile instead of a big applause. Thus, lack of affection and praise
makes one feel that he is not good enough. Even when he’s praised in adulthood,
the person hardly believes it.
3. You feel
as if you were born to get blame over you.
Have you
ever waited long for someone’s reply when you text them? Perhaps they are angry
with you. So, in this case you’d apologize continuously if you feel that you’ve
annoyed someone. The reason for this is the feeling you get that you were born
to receive blame. You always accept everything as your fault. In fact, your
elders would have laid all the faults on you instead of acknowledging them in
your childhood.
4. You will
take years to trust a person.
You always
think that people are always there to take the benefits from you. You think
that they need something from you whenever they are kind at you. You feel
embarrassed and difficult to trust someone when you have grown up in a toxic
environment. This is a result of your parents, the ones a child trusts the
most, changed rules and used love as a tool for manipulation.
5. Decision
making becomes impossible for you.
If you’re
one who has grown up in an environment where your work has been always
neglected, you’d find it hard to make selections in your elderly life. You’ll
always think ‘No, this is wrong’ or ‘May be this will cause problems’.
6. You
remain neutral.
You never
want to make trouble for anyone. Therefore, you always try to remain calm and quiet.
This is due to a sequence of negative reactions from others. You stay neutral
wanting others to like you as you’ve lived a childhood which was full of
negative reactions to each and every work you did in the past.
7. You stay
away from people.
It’s quite
easy for us to keep people out of our way without getting hurt continuously.
8. You try
to over-explain things.
As you have
the feeling that people won’t believe you, you always try to over explain
everything even if it is a totally believable story. This happens as you never
want anyone to have any point to not trust you. This happens as you’ve lied a
lot in your childhood days. You do this to avoid being labelled as a person who
lies all the time.
9. You
hardly believe that you’re loveable.
As you
spent your whole life with others showing your mistakes, you feel as if you’re
an unpleasant person. Perhaps, others have talked negative things about your
personality. But yet you’d get negative feelings about your appearance,
posture, the way of writing, the way of breathing, your smile and everything
that belongs to you. Thus, you’d spend a hard time believing in others who love
you truly.
You will
keep undergoing the de-merits of a toxic family environment if you never
understand your past. The past has taught you the way to look for the secret
agendas and the hidden meanings of what someone said. And also it has shown you
that the people you love the most can be horrible at some instances.
Always try
to make the maximum use of your experiences in the past. Keep in mind that your
past will never give a definition to you as it’s just a kind of advice for you
to make a better life out of it. You’re still able to grow up and try another
successful way of life. You need never feel your life as an ignorance.
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