Being
a parent to a cocky, disrespectful teenager is far from
easy, and different parents have different approaches to get their
children to behave.
One
mom, Heidi Johnson, wrote a handwritten letter to her son, Aaron, and
shared it on Facebook. She didn’t intend for the post to go viral. She didn’t
even intend to make the post public. It was supposed to just be for friends to
see, but she does not regret her post or the fact that it’s public.
In
the letter to her 13-year-old son, Johnson reprimanded her son treating her
like a “roommate.” She went on to give him an itemized bill for rent, food, etc
that totaled over $700. If he was going to treat her like a roommate instead of
his mom, she would do the same.
Johnson
signed the note, “Love Mom,” and she truly does love her son. She followed up
the post with another post explaining some backstory to the
situation. She also reassured parents who were criticizing her that “I am not
going to put my 13 year old on the street if he can’t pay his half of the rent.
I am not wanting him to pay anything. I want him to take pride in his home, his
space, and appreciate the gifts and blessings we have.”
She
added that she never intended for Aaron to pay the bill. Instead, she wanted
him to “gain an appreciation of what things cost.” The reason Johnson wrote the
note was to make sure her son understood “what life would look like if I was
not his ‘parent,’ but rather a ‘roommate.’ It was a lesson about gratitude and
respect from the very beginning.”
Johnson
also explained that before she wrote the note, her son had lied about doing his
homework, and when she told him she was going to restrict his internet access,
he responded, “Well, I am making money now.” She explained that the money he
was referring to was a little bit of income he was making from his YouTube channel,
but not nearly enough to pay for food and rent.
The
public note has not hurt Johnson’s relationship with her son. She explained,
“He and I still talk as openly as ever. He has apologized multiple times.”
Johnson
has also had parents turning to her for advice since she posted the note to her
son. She explains, “My post seems to have opened a door, and people feel
safe coming to me and asking for advice, venting, or even just have someone
bear witness to their experience by listening and opening up and sharing a
piece of myself in return.”
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