“Try
not to become man of success, but rather try to become a man of value” –Albert
Einstein-
If
you want to become a man of value, you must breakup with your ego, ignorance,
selfishness and probably should change your bad behavior and false attitude.
Here
are some lessons I’ve learned over the years from the society. You should avoid
these qualities to achieve your success. Hopefully they’ll prove as useful to
you as they have been useful to me.
1. You
want others to fail
Actually
this quality of you forcefully shows your ignorance, stupidity. You can never
become a successful man through others’ failures. It’s your choice to become
who you are today; remember you are what you do. No matter how well
liked that person is, how hard he works, how qualified he might be for his job-
you just aren’t pulling for him. You might be jealous of him, or you might
simply get enjoyment out of messing with him. But what do you deserve
throughout his failures? Remember you can analyze his success, complain about
it, cry and scream at the unfairness of it, but nothing can change your
position. Your stupidity guides him to be more successful than before. It’s
only waste of your valuable time. Do your job the best you can, instead of
trying to bring others down.
2. You
hold a grudge
Why
do we hold grudges when they are in fact quite painful to maintain? Why do we
keep wounds open and active? Holding grudge towards someone who be nice to you
is just like letting someone live letting free in your head. Actually it’s
similar as one sided expectation, because one sided expectation can mentally
destroy you same as holding grudge towards a success person; remember your
thoughts couldn’t able to change his status. When you hold grudge it doesn’t
block that person’s path of success, but it creates a wall in between you and
your success. The path of freedom from a grudge is not so much through
forgiveness of “other”, but rather through loving your own self. If you want to
become success you should forgive who ‘wronged” you.
3. You
are afraid to change
Sometimes
it feels like we are not allowed to change, for fear of what others will think
or say or do. If you are afraid to change how could you able to see the path of
success? All we need in our life is to change, it’s necessary because we meet
different people, face different adventures, especially in need of struggle to
be better every day. Your fear to change will guide you to the path of
suffering. When you stay in the same way without embrace change, your
motivation gradually loses. You should think wide because narrow minded people
never invented magical stuff. First of all change yourself to change the world!
4. You
criticize without any valid reason
Criticism
is another way to show your ignorance, in the same time it’s an easy way to let
yourself down. Do you know that you criticize someone just to make yourself
better? Not only that, you hesitate to strive for success. People who criticize
others without any valid reason simply represent their jealousy, inferiority
feelings, and especially their failure to achieve the success. Criticism shows
your unskillful attempt to connect with successful people, your inability to
reach the higher level and your lack of confidence. Successful people give
compliments, appreciate, and respect instead of mistreating others, that’s how
they became a man of value, a truly blessed person.
5. You
talk about people
There
are far better things to talk about than other people, the sensational,
intimate details of another. Unfortunately when you talk about people, it feels
better for a while but it’s one of your weaknesses which make you immature,
sign of your undeveloped mentality. Most of people talk about others when they
feel jealous, they try to put the one he is talking about down so that they
feel good about them self. You can talk about new ideas, creative things and
much more things to make yourself better for life time. Your success is your
choice, either you can let others down or make yourself proud. If you waste
your time to talk about others, you can never be successful.
6. You
think you know it all
“the
more you know, the more you release how much you don’t know- the less you know,
the more you think you know” – David T. Freeman
This
is all what it means, successful people continuously learn new things to be
better than yesterday. If you think you know it all and do what you want
without thinking twice, the result will shock you for sure. The very first
thing you must know is, in this world no one who knows everything, don’t be
afraid to admit when you don’t know something, and learn from the best whenever
you can, then definitely you will be successful. Remember you have to learn
something new each and every day instead of being high minded and sleeping like
you are an expert in everything. In dreams everybody can reach success, but
real men and women are working for it, not dreaming.
7. You
blame others for your failures
May
be you are one of these kinds of a person; think about it, it’s time to change
this bad quality of yours. You cannot be success while blaming others for your
failures. You have to be genuine to be a man of value. You should accept the
fact that you are the reason behind your failure.
“When
you blame others, you give up your power to change.” –Robert Anthony-
Nobody
is perfect, so that you cannot point finger and placing blame on others for
your mistakes because you are the author of your misfortune. You have to learn
from your own mistakes; actually your last mistake is your best teacher, the
best guidance to be successful. Don’t hesitate to accept your mistakes and
failures but hesitate to put blame on others for it.
I
thought of end this article with this greatest quote by Mahatma Gandhi, “be the
change you want to see in the world”. It’s time to make a difference in you,
not in others. It will take you to the correct path of success. According to
‘Lord Buddha’, “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We
ourselves must walk the path”, “With our thoughts we make the world”.
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